I'm still alive!

Yes I am still kicking! And I remembered I have a blog, but life has been so crazy, and to be totally honest, I have been a bit depressed and sluggish about EVERYTHING of late.

My ex and his wife have been treating me like crap. I am not sure people get much more ingnorant than they are. I refuse to go to the house any longer to pick up the kids. So we arranged a neutral meeting point which is slightly better...but it's just impossible to work with them. I can't even discuss my son's school work without being made fun of.

All the psychologicals are completed and in our hands. Court date is set for November 1st (just a few days shy of a year from the beginning of this thing). The recommendation from this doctor who evaluated us was that the boys reside with mother! I was happy for that, but the content of the evaluation was sad. Very sad.

His opinion for Derek was that he is very low academically and has social/behaviorial problems. Possibly ADHD. The psychologist found it 'astonishing' that the boys academic performance is so very low when their father so intelligent and has tutored and nurtured them (I sensed a bit of sarcasm here). Derek prefers his dad, but says he wouldn't mind living with me.
(I have been screaming about Derek's school issues since Kindergarten...!)

Dalton is resentful of his dad. He prefers Mommy. He views his dad with trepidation. Both boys referenced their dad's temper.

The ex...passive/aggressive, withdrawn, rationalizing...underachieving. Nothing I didn't know already.

Me...a bit more depressed than maybe I realize. Altruistic. Not quite as smart as the ex...IQ wise.

And thats it in a very small nutshell. Still waiting....

I'm looking forward to this weekend with my boys. We're going to do some fun Fall/Halloween stuff! And I'm getting more than a little excited for Christmas this year. Finally, one that won't be a hardship financially!! I am getting childsupport, alimony and my $20,000 settlement this week. Not to mention still working my day job and sometimes nights at the Steakhouse. 4 years later...and I'm on my feet!

More updates soon. Well wishes to you all!